Baby Laughs

My stepmom calls these videos "internet Prozac" since they always seem to cheer her up. Please excuse my maniacal laughter at the end. I couldn't help it. Enjoy!

Diapers and Potties

Judging by the number of packages of disposable diapers I received prior to Xavier's birth, I don't think most people expected us to stick with our cloth diapering goal. Once we got the hang of it, cloth diapering has actually turned out to be quite simple, economical and easy.

There are countless numbers of types and brands of cloth diapers available thanks to the internet. Since ease and cost were two of our main goals, I decided to go with the simple powerhouse of the diapering world: prefolds and covers. As Xavier began sleeping for longer periods at night, we invested in six Bumgenius pocket diapers. These have a wicking microfleece next to the babe's bottom and a super absorbant microfiber insert. I double these with some autoshop microfiber towels I bought at Target. I made some cloth wipes from a spare piece of flannel fabric I had in my stash. All in all, we've spent approximately $250 for all our diapering supplies.

The thing people ask me the most often is about the work involved. If I didn't have a washer and dryer at home, there is no way I would have stuck with this. However, every two or three days I put the diapers and covers in the laundry for a soak and double rinse cycle. About an hour later I transfer them to the dryer. Then Xavier and I fold them and put them up on the changing table.

Lately we've been using fewer diapers. I bought Xavier a little Baby Bjorn potty as a way to get him used to the concept of the toilet and quite frankly, a way to keep him out of trouble when I go to the bathroom. I started putting him on his little potty whenever I go to the bathroom and when he wakes up in the morning or from a nap. Lo and behold he's quickly caught on and pees or poops about 50% of the time he is given the opportunity. He gets a kick out of flushing and
washing his hands afterwards.

I doubt that this will lead to full blown "potty training" anytime soon, but it is so adorable to see Xavier figuring things out.

Sew and So

I have been sewing since I was in high school. I'm pretty much self-taught from books. I found my mother's old Sears model in the closet one day and started fiddling around until I got the hang of it. In college I worked in the costume shop of the Theatre Department and even spent one summer stitching costumes for the theatre at Chautauqua, NY. The nice thing about working in costume shops is that you have the right work spaces and tools: cutting tables, steam irons, sergers, hem stitches, dye vats, etc.

Sewing was something I picked up and put down throughout my adult life. Because my Sears sewing machine was vintage, it only did a straight and zig zag stitch. I never mastered the skill of a buttonhole that didn't scream "home sewn!" that I simply didn't make items that required them.

This Christmas my in laws gave me a brand new Singer 9910. It has about 60 different stitches including a serger-like overedge stitch to make sewing knits, a blind hemstitch, and even the ability to embroider small monograms. It is also much quieter than my old Sears model, meaning I can sew in the next room while Xavier takes his morning nap.

I've so very much enjoyed being able to do 30-45 minutes of sewing each day that I choose to do so. I've managed to finish piecing together this quilt top that I started working on before I met my husband!

I've stitched some "babylegs" out of kneehigh socks for Xavier so he can just hang around in a onesie without getting cold or skinned knees.

I've also cut up and edgestitched a few old bath towels into kitchen rags in an ongoing effort to reduce the amount of paper towels we use around here.

Future projects include finishing up a dress sloper to have an accurate master pattern from which to draft new clothes. I purchased Pattern Master Boutique 2.2 in January 2004 and still haven't used it to make an item of clothing. Maybe I've watched one too many episodes of Project Runway, but I can't wait to make a new knit top and a custom fit pair of jeans.

Pull ups!

Xavier hit another milestone today--pulling up into a standing position. He's been "standing" with help for almost two months now but this was the first time I've seen him go from a crawling position into a propped up on feet position. About one minute after this photo was taken, he collapsed and burst into tears. After a little comforting by Mama, he was crawling back to the stool to do it again. What a brave little boy.

Simplicity Challenge: Part I

My Aunt Susan has generously passed along to me two books about spirituality and simplicity. One is Not Buying It by Judith Levine and the other is Nothing Left Over by Toinette Lippe. Both started out strong and I found them inspiring. However, about one third of the way through I began to find the authors' self-congratulatory tones insufferable. Maybe it is a hazard of becoming simple. Please let me know if I start to become insufferable too.



Anyway, one thing that I would like to do in 2008 is focus on one area of simplicity each month. For January, we are working on focusing on being good stewards of the food we bring into the house. Not only are we trying to avoid dietary no-nos like high fructose corn syrup, prepackaged foods, and bleached flour goods but we are also working on actually using up the food that we buy.



Like most American families, we tend to waste a good deal of the food that comes into our home. Sometimes produce that looked so tempting in the grocery store spoils while neglected in the refrigerator. Other times, we just put too much on our plates at mealtimes. I'm also guilty of passing over leftovers in favor of a newly made dish.



When I think of the fact that much of the world struggles to get the nutritious food that we toss in the waste bin, I am quite frankly embarrassed. But I really want to use this as an exercise to develop more gratitude for the abundance we've been blessed with.



So this month the goals are simple:

• Make as much use of each food item as possible. This includes using vegetable trimmings to make vegetable stock or saving them for the compost pile. Cracker and bread crumbs come free at the bottom of the bag.
  


• Use up left overs. Lunches are a great way to use up left overs. So are soups. And casseroles.
  


• Start with small portions. While we aren't really trying to lose weight here, we do find that we don't always eat as much this way and we certainly scrape less off our plates into the garbage after a meal.

I'll post a report of how we did at the end of the month. Anyone want to join in?

Christmas--Part II

Okay, another photo dump from the Christmas files. A McNicholl family tradition is to go for a long hike on Christmas Day. This year we went up to the National Preserve. We saw lots of birds but no wild boars. Enjoy!

Pre-hike photo:

Dad and Xavier check each other out via the backpack hand mirror:

Hunter registers us at the trailhead:

And we're off!:

And later, all cleaned up and in our Christmas clothes:

Christmas--Part I

Okay, with all the action going on around here, I've not been able to keep up with the blog. We've been too busy living our lives to document it. Apologies to all! I promise to try to catch up by next week. In the meanwhile, I'm going to post a few photos:




Hunter's homemade Saint's sign. Unfortuately her fantastic creativity didn't secure the win for the boys in black and gold. We are sad that playoffs are no longer a possibility. There's always next year.

Dad puts the angel atop the Christmas tree on Christmas Eve. We all took turns putting on ornaments and bows. Hunter and I drank tons of eggnog and sang Christmas songs.

The Holy Family continued to mysteriously travel around the house and "arrived" at the nativity stable Christmas Day. When Tim, Susan and Hunter each denied moving any of the figurines, Hunter decided to fingerprint us and see if there were any matching prints on them. Result: no fingerprints at all! Determination: the spirit of Christmas must be responsible!

We're in the Army now!

Well, Army crawling at least!

Bad Mama!

Xavier is right on the cusp of learning to crawl these days. He does a lot of rolling and scootching around on the carpet. Most of the time instead of pushing forward with his legs, he just keeps pushing himself backwards with his arms. He always seems a little perplexed that he is getting further from the object of his desire the more effort he puts towards getting closer to it. But the sweet disposition of this little boy can overcome all. I give you exhibit A:

Now I don't know which is more adorable: the fact that he has yet again found himself wedged under furniture or the fact that he managed to wait patiently while his laughing mama took a picture of the event for all posterity.

St. Nicholas Day

Tim and I have always given a lot of thought to the type of Christmas we would like to celebrate as a family. We don't want to let the Christmas merchandising machine take over what for us is a very special and spiritual time of year. Too many gifts, too much emphasis on Santa, too many things that you have to do. Here are some of the traditions we have thus far:


1. Observe Advent. Prior to Christmas Eve, we pretty much banish all things Christmas from our home and play up advent. We usually do a weekly prayer and scripture reading as a family as we light advent candles. The readings are a wonderful way to set up the anticipation of the birth of our Lord. There is a lot of references to light coming into the darkness and it just fits with the shorter days this time of year.





This year I also put up a wreath on our door. For the first two weeks of advent we have a purple bow, the third week we have pink, and then back to that last week of purple before Christmas.

For fun, during the last week or so, we set up the nativity scene in the living room (this year on the mantle). At first we just set up the barn and animals. Mary and Joseph "travel" around the house on that last week from room to room as they make their way to Bethleham. We have a lot of fun surprising each other with them in silly places. Mary and Joseph in the pantry. Mary and Joseph running off with the remote control. etc. On Christmas Eve they arrive at the barn.


2. Celebrate 12 Days of Christmas

Then on Christmas Eve, we decorate the tree and go to Mass. Mary and Joseph are in the nativity at that point. Christmas morning the baby Jesus appears as do the shepards and angels. After opening gifts, we go for a hike in the national park near our house. We continue to celebrate Christmas with food and Christmas decorations until Epiphany (Jan. 6). Oh, and after Christmas Day the three wise men statues start making their way across the house too.


At Epiphany the wise men make it to the nativity scene, we clean up the holiday decorations and celebrate with a King Cake.


3. St. Nicholas Replaces Santa Claus


This is our first year with kids in the house at Christmastime. In lieu of Santa we have decided to observe St. Nicholas Feast Day. So last night Xavier put his little shoe out for St. Nick to fill with a toy or goodie. St. Nicholas also left a letter complimenting him and his behaviour and giving a little hint as to what to keep working on (this will obviously become more relavent as he gets older).

As for Christmas gifts, we intend to keep it to three per kid...that's how many presents Jesus got. As a guide for the types of gifts, we've used the old Yankee poem:

Something you want,
Something you need,
Something to wear,
And something to read.


with a few modifications to get the number from four to three it has become:


Something you want,
Something you need,
Like something to wear,
And something to read.


Of course the kids will still get plenty of gifts from extended family and that is great. Our aim isn't to eliminate gifts altogether but to keep the primary focus on the meaning of the holidays. The best memories I have of Christmastime are of the small things we did together like making Chex mix with my mother, sneaking off to see the Pontchatoula aligator with my sisters, and bringing presents to other families.

Squash!

Xavier is just getting over a nasty cold that he's had for four days. We celebrated his soon-to-be recovery with a healthy lunch of homemade butternut and acorn squash. Xavier decided that feeding himself is much more fun than waiting around for Mom. Mom was just glad not to spend yet another lunch hour playing Spoon Wrestling Smackdown.

God is trying to tell you somethin'

I haven't posted in a while. Tim was away in Africa at a conference for a week and Xavier and I decided to head over to Mandeville to visit with friends and family while he was away. After a week apart, it was so wonderful to see each other again and compare stories from our trips. However, the biggest surprise when I came home was this:

A little back story may be in order. Ever since we moved into our home in February 2006, our neighbor behind us has been doing home renovations. Half of our back fence is the back half of his side fence--our lots are perpendicular to one another. Both of our back fences square up to the massive drainage area behind our homes. The local drainage district folks keeps this area nice and mowed and it is a wonderful place for birds and wildlife.

Soon after beginning renovations, said neighbor started pitching junk over his back fence. At first it was relatively small stuff like chunks of jackhammered concrete. Then it got to be bigger pieces of wood. In the fall of last year, he drove across the right of way that is usually our front lawn to put a trailer behind his back fence. The pile grew and grew to about six feet tall. Unfortunately so did the sticker bushes and weeds since the public works folks could no longer mow around it.

I cannot overstate how much I let this situation drive me crazy. If I was having a difficult day, all I had to do was look at the backyard and I'd be off the races in frustration and indignation. How dare they be so selfish and self-centered! The two dozen or so other houses that had views of the drainage area only had to look at the mess, I had to suffer the mice and thorns creeping over and under our fence! I'm ashamed to admit that I had daydreams of throwing all the junk back over their fence in the middle of the night or hauling the trailer of junk to their front yard or worse.

Sometimes I got spiritual about it. When a mentor advised that I pray for God's will about the situation, I prayed for good things to happen to my neighbor. I prayed that he would win the lottery, want to sell his house and buy a bigger one, and he moved the junk to get top dollar. Not exactly a selfless prayer there, Susan. I also worked on accepting the fact that since he wasn't dumping on MY property, I really couldn't tell him what to do. I kept praying for grace to get past my anger and for a solution to present itself that didn't involve me turning into a vindictive Mrs. Kravitz.

Finally in September, after a hurricane blew through and rattled the junk heap a little too much for my comfort and the water didn't drain properly from our yard due to the weeds, I decided to call the drainage people. I mentioned that there was "some debris" that seemed to be preventing them from mowing part of their property and it was causing some drainage and vermin issues for me. They said they would clear it within 30-45 days. I marked my calendar for the follow-up call and turned it over (finally!) to God.

I also decided to "clean up my side of the street" by chopping down all the creeping jasmine that had come from my yard and was spilling over the back fence onto the trailer--making it an even bigger mess. I kept hacking and hacking at it until I realized there was something beneath the vine. When I cleared it entirely I discovered a beautiful four-foot-tall wrought iron cross underneath. At least everytime I looked in my back yard now, when I saw the cross, I had a physical reminder to offer up my suffering and desire to control this situation to God.

Well, wouldn't you know the drainage people did clear it after all? Of course, by clear I mean that somehow said trailer and trash is all in my neighbor's back yard again now. I am curious as to how all this went down (were fines involved? did he not have permission to drive it back through the right of way? did they just move it to the guy's yard?) but really that is none of my business.

In retrospect, I can't believe I let this make me so crazy for so long. I think if I had been less emotional from the beginning about all of this, I would have stumbled across the solution a lot sooner.

Happy Halloween!

I spend most of yesterday evening revamping Xavier's Halloween costume. It was supposed to be a peanut. I bought a giraffe print fabric thinking it would be sufficiently peanut-like. I made a cute little sleep sack like shape but it wasn't peanutty enough in shape. It did, however, look like a costume and not just a clothing item. I thought about making a tag that said "Found a peanut!" but thought that a costume that needs an explanation was pathetic. So after much eyerolling and sighing, I decided to make a little hat with ears and horns and make him a giraffe. Happy Halloween.

Photos!

More active baby these days means less time to type. Here's some photos from Xavier's first camping trip to Village Creek State Park. He LOVED it!

Food, glorious food!

Xavier has started dabbling with solid foods. At first he was more interested in the bib. But the mesh feeder has proven to be a great way for him to get started with a meal while Mommy and Daddy are still eating. We usually finish up with a few purees. Big hits: bananas and pears. Big misses: peas.

Well isn't that a kick in the head?!

Last Friday I made my very first panicked phone call to my pediatrician's office. It all started when I decided to dress up a bit to bring Xavier down to campus to visit with Dad at lunchtime. Instead of my very practical black mary jane flats I put on my styling brown mary janes with the three inch stacked heels. I like to make sure I'm one notch above student when it comes to heading down to campus.

Anyway, Dad had to cancel on us at the last minute and we came back home. Xavier was hanging out on a blanket on the floor in the living room and I was sitting on the floor eating a ham sandwich. Having finished my sandwich, I decided to help Xavier practice sitting up. As I swung my leg up and over the babe to straddle him, he lifted up on his arms, and I struck him squarely on the head with that blasted stacked heel.

The crying was heartbreaking. He had a scratch made visible by his cradle cap that went from the side of his head and across his front soft spot. A bit of nursing managed to calm little Xavier and I tilted him from side to side to make sure his eyes were dilating equally.

I was fairly certain that everything was okay but decided to call the pediatrician's nurse anyway. I was worried about the soft spot and I didn't want to head into the weekend without getting a little reassurance. As I waited to speak to the nurse, I was debating whether "I kicked him in the head" or "I hit him in the head with my shoe" were less likely to get me reported to child protective services.

The nurse was very understanding. After confirming twice that Xavier didn't FALL, she told me to watch his eating and sleeping habits and take him to the ER if anything changed significantly for the worse.

Needless to say, it is Monday now and Xavier was fine all weekend. Of course this afternoon he decided to headbutt me in the teeth while I was laughing. Yet another scrape in the cradle cap. No crying this time though.

Growing like a weed...

I can't believe how quickly Xavier is growing these days -- both physically and mentally. For the second time in three weeks, I've had to dip into the stash of presents-in-waiting and hand-me-downs from cousin Matthew to size up. Xavier is wearing 6-12 months depending on the make of the clothing. He's still small in girth but getting longer and longer. And of course, his cloth diapers tend to make his bottom larger than most.

As for cognitive leaps, there are two that stand out. When Tim came home from work on Saturday morning, Xavier was sitting on my lap while I checked my e-mail. The minute he saw his daddy, he lifted both arms up towards him in hopes of being picked up. It was a first! I must admit that I was a little jealous. Tim says that Xavier is much more likely to laugh at my antics though.

Xavier is also beginning to figure out this new Baby Einstein crib toy that Grandmother McNicholl sent to replace the moose mobile. If you touch the mirror it plays a cycle of classical music. Last night I woke up around 3 a.m. to the strangest sound coming out of the baby monitor. At first I just thought that I'd listened to the music clips so many times that they were echoing in my head. But I got up to check things out. Xavier was wide awake in his crib looking at himself in the mirror. As soon as the music stopped, he kicked the mirror to start it up again. It was like a reverse snooze alarm. I watched him do this three times and even considered sneaking back in with the video camera to prove to myself and the rest of the world that I wasn't dreaming this.

Since Xavier wasn't crying, I just left him to his fun and went back to bed. About an hour later he started fussing, ready for his middle-of-the-night feeding. Now, I can't wait until he's able to make it through the night without ANY feedings but for a kid who sleeps an average of 11.5 hours a night, that's a pretty tall order.

Whatcha doing?

Twice in the past week, the subject of how I describe my current employment has come up. One friend asked if I considered the term "housewife" offensive. Another person asked how the transition to "stay at home mom" (or SAHM for short) is going after the wild world of PR and publishing. Then of course there is the never ending stream of, "So, what do you do?" that happens when I meet people.



Lady of the house. Homemaker. Domestic engineer. Housewife. SAHM. SAHP (the gender neutral version). They all mean basically the same thing. A (usually) woman whose primary role in the family is devoted to keeping the household running smoothly and childcare. The various progression of monikers as a result of each generation's attempt to be more respectable then the last seems to me to indicate the overall lack of status this employment has in our society.



Doctors and laywers have always been doctors and lawyers. But secretaries became administrative assistants and then executive assistants and then office managers. Aides became nursing aides and then nursing assistants. Janitors became custodians and maids became housekeepers then house cleaners.



As a student of public relations, I can confirm that often a good name change actually does result in a newfound respect for less glamourous positions. Unfortunately it is all too often accompanied by an eye roll and accusations of political correctness on one side and easily offended sensibilities on the other. Within ten years or so, you need a new name change just to keep up with the cynicism. In the end you have job title inflation rather than any long term respect increase.



For the record I call myself a homemaker when describing what I do now. I do more than just kid care and the phrase SAHM just feels like a false dichotomy with work outside the home moms (WOHM) and fans the flames of the so-called mommy wars. But really, I'm not that sensitive. You can call me what you want...just say it with respect.

Songs for Diaper Changing

Xavier seems to love having songs sung to him. He does not, however, care for songs being sung to him while he is trying to go to sleep. Nope. No lullabyes for him. Instead, he loves to hear songs when he is getting his diaper changed. His absolute favorite is a rendition of Queen's "We Will Rock You" with the following lyrics:

You got milk on your face,
You big disgrace,
Pooping your pants
All over the place

We will, we will, change you (Sing it!)

Sometimes this devolves into a remix version with Nelly's "Hot in Here" with these lyrics:

It's gettin' wet in here,
So take off all your clothes...

These two never fail to get a smile out of him even if he starts out in tears. Its amazing how many contemporary songs can be used for baby entertainment with or without lyric changes. I have a CD of songs (that are not by the original artists) intended to be used for bedtime. The worst song on there is "Sweet Child of Mine." Yes, the Guns n Roses version. Except this rendition is done as a folk song. Blech.

When it comes to bedtime routines, Xavier much prefers music without lyrics. His current favorite is a CD of world flute music a la a massage therapist's office.

Baptism

Here's baby Xavier with his MaMere and Momo. He's wearing the adorable bonnet that Aunt Mary Jane and Uncle Bobby gave him. It turns into a hankerchief that can be given to the bride to carry when he gets married. Daddy says it makes him look Amish.



Xavier was all bright eyes right up until Father poured the water on his head.
He howled for the remainder of the baptismal service. Daddy and Godfather Steve try to cheer him up to no avail.

Here's the lovely cake that Xavier's godparents brought to the reception.

Speaking of godparents, here's Steve and Alex posing with Xavier, who is still crying.